Invitation Etiquette :: Part 5: Ceremony & Reception Stationary


Let's be real, your ceremony and reception stationary are not the first things you think about when you create your wedding invitations {unless you're like me, who gets excited about details like table numbers!}.  BUT, these items not only play an important role in the organization of your day, but are a great way to complete your design and theme.  I know that deep down you are desperately trying to do the DIY escort-card trend you see everywhere on Pinterest, but for your sanity and efficiency, remember there are other important pieces to include that won't go unnoticed by your guests....

Ceremony & Reception Stationary

  • Ceremony program

  • Menus

  • Escort cards

  • Table cards/table number

  • Place cards

What & Why:

  • Ceremony program: Includes the itinerary of the ceremony, information on the wedding party, any additional information regarding the ceremony or traditions, readings, speakers, sponsors, etc.

  • Menus: Whether each individual place setting has a menu, if there are a few scattered on the dining tables, if the meal is plated or buffet, or that large menu chalkboard you found on Pinterest...menus are a nice touch in reminding your guests what is being served.

  • Escort cards: Full name and table number of guest

    • Common ways of addressing guests:

      • Annette Datz

      • Mrs. Annette Datz

      • Mr. and Mrs. Datz

      • Mr. and Mrs. David Datz

      • Table cards/table number: Table number or table name

      • Place cards: Like an escort-card, place cards are set in front of each place setting. This is used if you have assigned seating, down to a specific location at the table.


  • Depending on the type of ceremony and reception, it is acceptable to incorporate any and all, or completely for-go any of these pieces depending on the formality of your wedding! A program may not be necessary or even important to you if you are having a casual ceremony, whereas it is standard practice for formal religious ceremonies. Remember, although your wedding is about you, take into consideration the feelings of your, seating arrangements can sometimes be awkward or making sure you get the name of your guests' +1 instead of writing out "and guest" on the escort card {believe me, I see it all the time}.

If you missed our first four parts of the Invitation Etiquette Series, take a look at Part1: Invitation Suite,Part 2: Save-the-dates, Part 3: the "Official" Wedding Invitation, and Part 4: Rehearsal Dinner Invitations. Stay tuned for the final segment of the Invitation Etiquette Series; Thank-you cards!

XO, Nicole